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To be in love.

I'm a psychology student and one of the perks of being in a psychology class is being surrounded by inquisitive friends who aren't afraid to talk about abstract human emotions like anger,  arousal and love.

A few days into the quarantine,  a friend and I were texting (social distancing check). She asked - What is love?  This question lead to an intense two hour long dialogue in which our opinions on romantic love were exchanged. The following passage is inspired by our conversation that day.


According to the all knowing reservoir of Google,  love is  'an intense feeling of deep affection'. Just reading those words out loud makes me want to cringe hard. Somehow, I can understand familial love and affection towards friends. We've all been exposed to it in some form during our early years. But, romantic love? Is that an actual thing ? Or a treacherous scheme by the society to trap innocent people for  procreation purposes. Convince them that love exists and poof,  the population increases. A perfect trap laid by evolution itself. 

People are enticed by the very idea of love and it's hard to blame them. We see love all around us, in movies, romantic novels and apparently even around our own friends. Somehow, we convince ourselves that this sweet siren, and a soulmate is a necessary step to life.          

Let's be real, a lover forever is non-existent,  a fallacy created by a damaged society or a broken family. The average divorce rate is increasing every year.  And this is only a measure for a legal 'breakup'.  One can only imagine the average rate of breakup for a couple today. A relationship is hard to maintain. It becomes especially difficult when we are readily able to compare ours with the relationship of others through social media.

To me,  romantic love is a 'verb'. To make a relationship work,  both you and your partner need to be willing to put in the work for however long you want your alliance to last. And lastly,  I think the word itself is so damn overrated, makes me want to give it a new label.


Until next time,
hx.


Disclaimer
I am not against romantic relationships. But the idea of a magical soulmate that can fix all your issues and insecurities seems quite illogical to my nineteen year old two celled brain that has never been in a relationship before. 
Let's continue the discussion in the comments section below, I'll be happy to hear your opinions.😀





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