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Making friends as an introvert



Being an introvert, it's easy to just be alone, we feel comfortable with our own selves and don't necessarily require other people around us. However, as much as we would like to live on our beds all day, it is important to make friends and meet new people. The world is a social place where daily interaction amongst human beings is unavoidable. Then, how is it that we, as introverts can get out of our bubble of warmth and face the world?
Growing up, making friends was never easy for me. I would overthink every conversation I had with people and tell myself I was better off being quite. I looked like an anxious puppy everytime I approached a person. So, I had very few friends, but the ones I made were precious to me.
It took a while to get out of this phase. Now, in college I have improved and have been able to meet new friends without much difficulty. Here are three simple tips that I would suggest you try:

Small talk is unavoidable
As much as we all hate small talk, it is a necessary kick start to a good friendship. Think of it as a preliminary test to an interview - it lets you know a little more about  the person in question. Keep in mind that it is important to not get stuck in small talk region, it is merely a bridge. Real friendships can progress only if you talk about the deep shit, exchange opinions and talk about what really matters to you. To start with, talk about some common interest - your college majors or favorite music.

Compliment people
No one dislikes a good compliment. Tell someone you like their dress if you think it looks good on them; if someone has amazing vocals, let them know. Often people do not realise the power of appreciation, it shows that you are interested in the other person. However, do not go overboard your compliments can backfire on you and create a negative impression if used carelessly. 

Be genuine
Making friends is much easier if you know yourself better [your likes, dislike, morals and values]. Finding a friend with similar interests can establish good rapport. Do not ever pretend to like a person just because you thought you liked them in the beginning, be genuinely interested and make time for your friends. Be real, never succumb to peer pressure, be confident with who you are and portray yourself as that person, not someone that other people think you are. For example, if people generally think you are a frequent alcohol consumer, but in reality you do not drink, then make it clear that you are not someone who drinks, rather than succumb to others' image of you as a social drinker.

In the long run you'll have a good set of friends who know you, understand you, enjoy being around and empower you. Good luck on making new friends.

Until Friday,
hx.



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